New relationships feel exciting, but don’t let the honeymoon phase blind you to warning signs. Here are 20 red flags to watch for before getting too invested:
They move too fast – Love bombing, excessive flattery, or talking about forever within days? 
They ignore your boundaries – If they push you emotionally, physically, or sexually, take that seriously.
They badmouth all their exes – If every ex was “crazy” or “toxic,” the common denominator is them.
They try to isolate you – Discouraging time with family and friends? That’s about control.
They get jealous easily – Jealousy disguised as “love” can quickly turn into possessiveness.
They dismiss your feelings – If they make you feel silly for expressing emotions, they lack emotional maturity.
They never take responsibility – If they always have an excuse and blame others, expect the same with you.
They guilt-trip you – Using guilt to manipulate your choices is a sign of emotional control.
They’re rude to service workers – How they treat waitstaff or cashiers reveals their true character.
They lie - big or small – Even small lies now can signal bigger betrayals later. They ignore your needs – If they only talk about themselves, they likely lack emotional depth. They control small things – Choosing your clothes, food, or plans now? It could escalate. They overreact to small things – A short temper now could mean worse outbursts later. They test your loyalty – If they put you in uncomfortable situations, it’s a manipulation tactic. They make you prove your worth – Love isn’t something you should have to “earn.” They disrespect your time – Constant lateness or canceling plans last minute? They invade your personal space – Demanding constant attention or checking your phone = control. They make mean “jokes” – If their humor puts you down, it’s not a joke—it’s disrespect. They make you question yourself – Feeling insecure, confused, or like you’re “overreacting”? That’s gaslighting.
You feel uneasy around them – Your gut knows. If something feels off, listen.
Love should feel safe, supportive, and respectful. If you’re seeing these red flags, don’t ignore them.
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