I speak to a lot of women and what I hear and see is that those women don’t know their true love language and that they are related to their childhood!
There are 5 Love languages, all of them reflects an unmet childhood need.
1. Acts of service arise from self-reliance in childhood.
2. Quality time stems from feeling of isolation.
3. Physical touch relates to avoidant caregivers.
4. Gift giving results from lack of meaningful presents.
5. Words of affirmation develop from criticism and lack of praise.
The love language you resonate with most is a reflection of the emotional needs that were unmet during your formative years.
If as a child you were afraid to ask for help or had to be self-sufficient, your love language is likely an actof service. This indicates a desire for others to show their love through helpful actions, as you may not have experienced this support growing up.
If you spent a significant amount of time alone and often felt isolated during your childhood, your love language is quality time. This reflects a longing for connection and shared experiences that may have been lacking in your early life.
If your parents or caregivers were avoidant or emotionally unavailable, your love language is physical touch. This suggests a need for physical affection and closeness, which may not have been adequately provided in your upbringing.
If you did not receive many gifts as a child, or the gifts you did receive were not meaningful or desired, your love language is gift-giving. This indicates a desire for tangible expressions of love and thoughtfulness that may have been missing.
You’re often criticized for your shortcomings and did not receive praise, leading you to withdraw as a coping mechanism, your love language is words of affirmation. This highlights a need for verbal encouragement and validation that may have been absent in your childhood.
Your love language reflects the type of love you didn't receive enough of as child.
Understanding this connection provides insight into your emotional needs and how you relate to others in your relationships but also how you relate to Money!
Knowing your love language and understanding your Money Wounds (check out my other Post) will lead you to a better understanding of yourself and your relationships and how to receive more money.
This self-awareness can enhance your interactions and help you communicate your needs and position your worth in money transactions more effectively.
Which childhood wound smells more like money to you—'I can do it myself' or 'Why doesn’t anyone see me?